Socialisation: For the baby, nurseries and child care centres are very positive places for expanding horizons, especially for only children. For children at a minder’s or in a tribe of siblings with their mother at home, it may still be good to register them in a child care centre, if only for a few hours each week, because it is an important advantage when they go to school.
Sessions with a psychomotor skills specialist help your child to express himself; they may also help him feel safer in society. The social behaviour of these children is often disturbed. They are often passive and tire more easily, with a long time lag between stimulation and response. They often have fluctuating attention spans and sometimes behavioural problems – being oppositional, withdrawing into themselves and so on – which is not ideal for helping them best develop. Work on their psychomotor skills, by creating a framework (place, time, educator) creates a feeling of safety and promotes your child’s capacity to express himself.
Your child may certainly be left with others (nanny, friends, family, neighbours), but you must simply let them know about his habits (baby bottle, nap, cuddles, games, etc.) just as with other children. It’s a good idea to teach him to live with others than usual family members and friends. This also gives the parents a break. You must love your child so that, when older, he will be happy without you. Allow him to be happy in an environment other than that of his family.
Caring for yourself, for your body and spirit, is essential if you want to take care of others. It’s not always easy and calls for a great deal of humility. You can’t assume everything by yourself, being on duty 24 hours a day, even for those you love most. Taking care of another takes a great deal of time and energy. Limits must be set beforehand and choices made, without anyone deciding the priorities for you. You must know how to get help, ask advice and accept, if necessary, to hand off. Accepting that another person than ourselves can bring peace and happiness to a situation is surely one of the best proofs of love we can give to those we love and who suffer.
Learning good table manners is very important from the youngest age. These good habits will be very useful when the child is in a group.
When he becomes aware of his disability, don’t let him use it to justify certain behaviours. For him to be accepted in society he must learn to respect rules, like everyone else.
If your young child tends to sway back and forth repetitively, or to stare fixedly, you must break him of it by communicating with him. This can be done with little games or short, varied activities, or even going for a walk.
From his first year it’s a good idea for your child to go to a nursery or child care centre. This is often a determining factor in his going to school later. It’s also important to find the most appropriate place for your child to be socialised. Your child may be followed by the CAMSP (Centre for early medico-social action, consult the website Service-Public.fr). If necessary, your child may be cared for by the SESSAD (Service for special education and home care; consult the website Service-Public.fr), which brings together a multidisciplinary team of professionals in a specialised educational or healthcare environment. These professionals will go to where the child is learning and developing, especially the school. To promote their integration, it is essential that your child be well-mannered and well-dressed, clean, with his hair and person properly groomed. When very young, you should be attentive to their grooming and the cleanliness of their clothes.